We have all heard it many times before. Yes, love can definetely be blinding. It takes a lot of time and effort to let go of a failed relationship. It may not be easy to overcome, but it is certainly not impossible.
We make many mistakes and go through numerous setbacks in our lives. However, these obstacles we tend to overcome on a daily basis give us a chance to grow and learn in regards to bettering ourselves as human beings.
As a group, the biggest lesson we have learned from our failed relationships is that you will always chase after people who do not love you if you do not love yourself.
We decided to ask 8 people about what lessons they learned after a failed relationship of theirs ended. Check out their responses below.
“Relationships need to be kept as natural as they possibly can and nothing can be forced. Once you feel like you are being forced to do something because you care about this person, it clearly states that this person does not accept you for who you really are.”
“I have learned to put myself first before anything or anyone. Putting myself first, not only brings happiness and clarity, but it brings maturity as well; the maturity which helps your future relationships work. I’ve learned to never hate the ones who have hurt me, instead I thank them, because without them I would not have learned how to better myself.”
“No matter how bad someone has hurt you, you need to learn to move on. Never wish the worst upon your significant other due to your relationship ending badly. At the end of the day, they will never regret what they did.”
“I learned to never tell anyone information that is too personal about myself so soon. If I am dating a male for a while, I end up telling them too much. Later, they usually end up telling people and throwing the information I told them in my face. This shows no respect for how personal the information was. For that reason I keep things to myself now.”
“I have learned how to treasure my free time. In my last relationship, as time went on I had a harder time defining myself outside of the relationship and that only made me depend on him more for my identity. I grew afraid of being alone because my role as a girlfriend monopolized my free time, so when I was alone I did not feel like myself. I now love and appreciate my free time more than ever because it reminds me that I am an individual!”
“Something that I have learned from a failed relationship was to never let anyone manipulate you into thinking that you caused the relationship to end. I had done nothing wrong to the person I was previously dating to ever be treated the way I was treated. I carried the baggage from this relationship for a long time. It wasn’t until my most recent relationship that I learned that I was not the cause of my first relationships demise. This person played on my insecurities and manipulated me into thinking everything was my fault. At the end of the day, I learned that none of it was my fault.”
“I learned that all you really have is yourself and you should not seek reassurance from anyone. Contrary to popular belief, what you see, hear, and watch directly affects your actions and perception of the world. I also learned that energy is crucial. It’s perfectly fine to agree and/or disagree with your significant other, but if they aren’t supporting you, returning your energy, exuding the love and peace, or adventure and sex appeal you desire and deserve…you’re wasting your time.”
“I learned to never change myself throughout the duration of any relationship. In previous relationships, I noticed that I began to lose myself and the sense of who I was as a person. However, I have learned from my mistakes and have grown to stay as “the girl who wears her heart on her sleeve” so-to-say.”